Abuse. Let' talk about the elephant in the room.

I don't believe in trigger warnings.

Triggers are a necessary part of realizing what you need to move through and heal. If you always avoid being triggered you're basically saying you don't want to address the things you most need to address. Having addressed that first is an effective trigger warning though, so did I just act like a total hypocrite? Whatever... on to the topic!

Do you know that there is more than one kind of abuse?

Did you know you can be abused and not realize it?

Maybe you feel something is wrong in your relationship whether it be with your family, boss or significant other. Maybe you think they have an anger problem or are just difficult. Maybe you think they are overly sensitive, or insecure. But, if you are experiencing these things and you're often made to feel like you're crazy, you're always misinterpreting the situation, you're overreacting, or you're the one who messed up in some way there might be something deeper going on here.

Abuse isn't always physical and it isn't always clear you are being abused. In fact, a huge percentage of people suffering emotional abuse WISH they had physical abuse because at least there would be some clear evidence that something wrong is going on, there is no denying it, and there is a clear perpetrator.

And what are you to do when you're still in love with your abuser? You can tell they are in pain, you know why they are the way they are and it pains you to think that you're going to hurt them in the process of keeping yourself safe? What do you do then?

I made a live video this morning about abuse, gave guidance on how you can possibly handle the situation, and opened the forum to talk about something more people than you can imagine are secretly suffering from.

It's time to talk about the huge fucking elephant in the room so we can show him the door.

"You're only as sick as your secrets"

If you're experiencing pain in your relationships and you're keeping it to yourself you are doing yourself and your partner a huge disservice. Keeping dysfunction a secret isn't protecting anyone. It isn't loving. It isn't noble, and it isn't right. Keeping pain inside makes it multiply until you're overwhelmed with shame. How is that loving? The most loving thing you can do for yourself and for everyone around you is to heal yourself. Seek assistance from a professional. Coaches, women's centers, therapy.. anyone you can trust to listen, help you come up with a plan of action, and have your safety and best interest at heart. If you're coming out of a bad situation, if you're years removed from the situation, if you're going through a non-abusive change that has still left you feeling empty, confused, lost, or like you've wasted your life I'm here to tell you it's not too late to turn things around! You can reconnect with yourself, with your higher power, and your intuition. You can fill the empty shell of a person you've become with beauty, love, joy, comfort, peace, and purpose. You can become the person you dream of being. You can learn the TRUTH of who you are. The truth is that you are already whole. That you have everything you need to be truly happy, that you are a divine being, that you deserve to live in peace and joy. The TRUTH is that you have support available to you, that you are not alone in this and that you can heal and thrive! I am looking forward to learning how I can guide you on your path to healing.